PERSONAL (R)EVOLUTION STEP #3: IMPLEMENT AND REFINE
Until you do that thing you want to do – whether it’s writing your book or setting up a nutrition practice, it’s all speculation. Like a first kiss, or going through labor, you can prepare all you want but until you do it, you don’t really know what the experience is like.
I have a client who wanted to catapult her career. She was working in real estate investment, and she was making a lot of money. She was skilled, capable, and frustrated, for she was on a dead-end path. She wanted a bigger role in the firm, she wanted to run investments. She wanted to be the business person she knew she was.
Her reviews were flawless, and yet — she couldn’t seem to get the company to support a move. We strategized. She had meetings with senior management, mentors, and over the course of months of trying, one thing became clear: she was hitting a glass ceiling. And it wasn’t going away, at least not in this firm.
Then we dug deep: she didn’t want another job in real estate; she didn’t want to work for a competitor. As a kid, she was starting businesses: she wanted to try starting — and running — her own company. She wanted to be an entrepreneur. Should she go to business school? What was the next step?
After thinking, acting, and trying new things, she decided to go for it. She and her boyfriend (now husband), started a company. Within a year, Facebook had offered to buy them out. Today she’s onto her second tech startup, and she’s the CEO.
Here’s what I love about this process: She wanted to move up in the company, yet she was blocked (through no fault of her own). So we dug deeper, to get at what would be even more meaningful for her — and the best way to get there. In the end, she ended up in a far more satisfying and authentic place.
Implement, refine. Implement, refine. This is the engine of change, and where we spend most of our time together. You’ve established a vision, made a plan, now we iterate through old-fashioned trial and error until we get to that place where you say, “Yes! This is what I want!”