I’ve been thinking about this newsletter for months. Maybe years.
And today is the day imma come out and say it. Because there are THREE articles I’ve read over the last year that are creating a perfect truth storm.
Here we go.
ONE: My 53-year-old college roommate sent me this article yesterday about a 53-year-old woman declaring she’s not invisible, she might just be in the pocket. Yup. And in the comments there were a thousand more women, commenting on an article published yesterday who had something to say.
“Ain’t that the truth.”
“I’ve never been happier.”
“Best decade of my life.”
The sisterhood was sisterhood-ing.
TWO: Last April this article came along about thirty-something men actively pursuing women in their fifties.
I can report from the field that this phenomenon is very real. Three years into separation and dating again, I have been absolutely gobsmacked by how common it is.
Every woman I know over 50 already knows this.
Contrary to what we were led to believe, we are not becoming invisible.
We’re being sought out.
THREE: Last is this article that I carried in my beach bag all last summer becasue I just couldn’t believe it was true—the one about women in midlife having the best sex of their lives.
Wait. What?
At the time, I’d been in a years-long drought courtesy of a marriage slowly unraveling.
Everywhere I looked, people were talking about menopause, declining desire, drying up, fading away.
And yet these women were reporting the exact opposite.
Interesting.
My married friends were not necessarily having this experience.
The others?
Well hot damn.
So yes, this topic of the modern woman over 50 feels deeply personal.
And before you assume I’ve completely lost my mind and forgotten that this newsletter goes out to current and future clients, allow me to connect the dots.
My work has always been about change.
Career change. Relationship change. Identity change. Life change.
I help people navigate the terrifying, exhilarating process of becoming who they actually are.
And what I’m witnessing among women over 50 right now is nothing short of a renaissance.
A liberation.
Women leaving marriages that no longer fit.
Leaving careers that no longer fit.
Leaving versions of themselves that no longer fit.
I see women loving themselves more fully than ever before.
I see them building deeper friendships.
Taking bigger risks.
Starting businesses.
Traveling solo.
Making more money.
Getting stronger.
Having more fun.
And yes, occasionally romping with men who are decades younger and finding those relationships surprisingly beautiful and mutually beneficial.
The rules are changing.
Frankly, many of us are throwing the rulebook directly into the recycling bin.
Now, I realize this isn’t everyone’s favorite cultural trend. There is a growing chorus of men on the internet insisting women should quietly shrink, expire, and become decorative houseplants after 45.
To those gentlemen, I wish you all the best with that.
Translation: Ya’ll can go kick rocks.
Meanwhile, I’ll be over here helping women build lives that feel expansive, joyful, meaningful, and fully their own.
Which is why I was delighted when a large multinational corporation recently called me to create a women’s empowerment series for their employees.
This work matters.
Women matter.
And helping women step into the next chapter of their lives matters.
If you’re interested in bringing women’s empowerment workshops into your organization—or if you’re navigating your own transition and want support—I would love to support you.
Because here’s what I’ve learned:
It’s actually a very good time to be an older woman. A really good time.
We have wisdom.
We have perspective.
We have resilience.
Many of us finally have resources.
Most of us have a sense of humor.
And increasingly, we’re giving ourselves permission to live on our own terms.
Imagine that.
If you’re over 40 and not feeling this way yet, reach out.
There is nothing wrong with you.
Sometimes you simply need support crossing the bridge into the next version of yourself.
And if you’re an ally to a woman who you’re thinking of right now, forward this email. She’ll love those articles.
The renaissance is real.
Love, kisses, and string bikinis,
Allison
