On my wedding day, I became a stepmother. That word, with all its ugly connotations, was a coat I put on top of my wedding dress. After the honeymoon, I looked at this coat (not at all my style), and I thought: what have I done? Sounds horrible, doesn’t it. I felt like the ogre […]
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I have two impressive clients, one a lawyer and one a doctor. They are highly accomplished in their fields. On the same day, each separately asked me the same question at one point during the session: “Am I doing the girl thing?” And I knew exactly what they meant. But, being a coach, my job is
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I have a life coach. As a career & life coach, it behooves me to be coached, to practice what I preach. My coach was a set up, and as a result, a coach was chosen for me that is probably unlike a coach I would have chosen for myself. He is a Black Christian man living
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My family and I went to a festival recently, and they had one of those games where participants can win goldfish. Of course this the prize both of my 3-year-olds wanted. And, after carrying those fish around for 2 hours, carelessly tossed to the side when a kid was eating pizza, swimming away from the claws of a 3-year-old
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For those of you who think the most powerful words are “I love you,” try again. It starts with “I love you”, right? After that, maybe there’s an “I do”, after which you adopt a fish or a frog or a fuzzy something or other. Then maybe you create some new people. Sure, “I love you” kicks it off. It’s a
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I remember sitting at the office after my fourth IUI didn’t work. My colleague was showing me pictures of her beautiful 2 year old running on the beach. She had no idea what I was going through. Except that she did. As I cooed over her beautiful child, she opened up about IVF. This had
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