So the other day my four-year-old cornered me in the locker room at our town pool. “Mom, can you help me walk over to those girls and ask them if I can be their friend?” Ugh. Not this. Those girls were older, tall and thin, blonde, possibly wearing lip gloss, doing some sort of song […]
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Dear Allison, My husband and I have a healthy marriage. We go on date nights about three times a month. On the weekends, we are intimate. No matter how tired my husband is after work, he always spends quality time with our son. And before fully winding down for the evening, he makes sure bills
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Dear Allison, I just don’t want to have sex with my husband any more. There I’ve said it. I like him, I love him, he’s a great father and partner. I’m just not into sex. I’m still nursing (our fourth child), and I get enough physical stimulation. I know he’s disappointed about it, but I
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Did you know that the time before bed is notorious for piquing people’s anxiety? That’s when you think about things you should have said during the day, when you start wondering about logistics, a big presentation for tomorrow, or if your kid is coming down with the flu. Therapists know it’s a notorious time for
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Have you ever had a really rough moment with your child, and then someone else—maybe an older person—will tell you how absolutely delightful your child is? And then you respond with something like, “Yeah, you may think so but…” Or maybe you’ve had a friend admire your house, and you can’t help but show them
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If your spouse is looking for a change, follow these 4 steps to recalibrate their career trajectory. There are few things more heartbreaking than someone hating their job. Work is where most people spend the majority of their waking hours. And if your spouse is the breadwinner, they feel this responsibility—they have to work, they have to make money,
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Are you considering becoming a single parent by choice? Here’s how one single mom did it all on her own—from selecting sperm to becoming pregnant to having two children—and she’s sharing all her top secrets on how you, too, can become a parent. Have you always wanted to be a mom? Kate McNeil did. She
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These are the little things that every new mom realizes eventually, but no one really talks about. 1. You may pump in some crazy places. While it’s wonderful that companies are now required by law to provide lactation rooms and breaks to nursing moms, you may not be pumping there all the time. Have you ever
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We all make mistakes. It’s how we handle it that can make matters better—or worse. 1. Congratulations: You Failed Call it what it is: You messed up! Did you crash your car into a light pole? Or was it only that you tucked your skirt into your underpants and walked through the office before realizing it?
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